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Because I Couldn’t Find Prince Charming Last Year, Love Sucks

Alright, my title might be a little dramatic; this isn’t The Bachelor. I only mean it a little bit. You see this has been a weird year. Let me explain.

I’ll start a year ago when I met Prince Charming (you can read all about that magical moment here). Anyone who’s been around long enough will know that a dashing young gentleman rescued Snow White’s phone on the carousel at Magic Kingdom. He was my Knight in shining armour (or at least had potential to be)… and then I was my awkward self and ended up never seeing him again. February 13, 2015, the day I did not talk to Prince Charming. Kris & KG will never let me live it down.

Because I couldn't find Prince Charming last year, love sucks...

oh Prince Charming, things could have been so different if I had spoken to you

Since then things have been weird. I’ve had a number of suitors this past year, or more accurately, a number of potential suitors I turned away. And what amazes me the most is that this keeps happening. Why?!?! It’s almost hilarious at this point. Sometimes I feel like I’m living in Tudor times. It’s like I’m at a Ball being held in my honor and I keep turning the men away at the door.

There have been six potential suitors. Some of these I dealt with better than others. Some of these I ignored for months. Some of these I wanted to work out more than others. Some of these I have moments where I’m still second-guessing. And at least one of these the jury is still out on. There were the friends who are perfectly respectable choices, just maybe not my Prince Charming. There were those who admired me, just no longer wanting to from afar. And there were those with potential who left.

This year has been interesting but I haven’t given up. It’s been a year since I met Prince Charming. I’m still that girl who rode the carousel last February. I didn’t find the Prince Charming I searched the Internet for and I have yet to find a replacement back home, but I haven’t given up. I’m still choosing to believe my Prince is out there. Call me naive and a hopeless romantic, but I still have faith. 2016 we can do this!

Happy (early) Valentine’s Day! I’ll be celebrating on Sunday with my best girlfriends (and drinking wine!)

Thanks for reading!
– Justine Alyssa

February 11, 2016 0 comment

Confessions Dating Pretty Little Liars Reactions Star Wars Teen TV Shows YA Fiction

Confession: I’m Obsessed with Forbidden Love

written by Justine Alyssa

This Tuesday was an ultra exciting day on television. We were graced with the mid-season premiere of Pretty Little Liars – with the intriguing #5YearsForward jump – and the series premiere of Shadowhunters, the new series based on Cassandra Clare’s book series The Mortal Instruments. Obviously we are obsessed with both of these fandoms and as the good fangirls we are, we’re dedicating an entire week to discussing these thrilling television debuts. Welcome to PLL/Shadowhunters Week on My Fangirl Life!

I’ve recently realized something or, more accurately, this was recently pointed out to me: I have a serious obsession with forbidden love. There have been a couple of clues pointing to this over the past year:

The majority of my Top 10 OTPs fall into this category
I cried 3 times during our 17 hour Star Wars Marathon
I’ve been obsessed with Titanic for 18 years
I cared more about the fate of Ezria after Season 1 of PLL than finding out who ‘A’ was
I dedicated an entire month of posts to Twilight in October simply because I wanted to

I love the secrets and lies. I love the thrill and excitement. I love when someone risks everything, and is consumed by the desire, to be with that one person. I love how the characters hopelessly throw themselves all in. I love how these relationships almost always end tragically, and I love the sadness that usually comes in hand with them. I love how we often know it’s not going to work out. I love knowing that the odds are not in their favour, but I still cheer for them. I still cheer and cry on my couch watching their relationships unfold.

Here are some of my favourite forbidden romances. Each one has given me so many feels over the years.

Romeo Montague & Juliet Capulet

This is the most classic example of forbidden love: Romeo & Juliet. These star-crossed lovers were doomed from the beginning. With young love and dueling families, it really is quite a tragic tale. In reality, all of the couples mentioned below should have learned from this example. Being together through secrets and lies is hard. This will always be my favourite Shakespeare play and its formula is something I fall for time and time again.

Bella Swan & Edward Cullen

Oh Bella and Edward. You many remember my tumultuous relationship with Twilight and these two. Edward & Bella are forbidden to be together, at least initially. But I think this story finds its way onto this list because there was nothing that could stop them. Edward tried to stay away from Bella for a short period of time (about 5 chapters) before giving in. And once he was in, he was 100% in. He was going to do everything he possibly could to protect Bella. A number of people tried to keep this vampire and human apart, but in the end love won out.

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Meggie Cleary & Ralph de Bricassart

I was named after one of the main characters in The Thorn Birds and as soon as I was old enough, my mom made sure I watched the miniseries. This story is focused on the forbidden relationship between Father Ralph de Bricassart and young Meggie Cleary, who must be 15 years his junior. Everything about that sentence is wrong and yet you can’t help but want them to be together and be happy. You want Ralph to give into his desires and be with Meggie. You want them to give into their passion. You’ll spend a minimum of 6 of the 8 hours of this miniseries rooting for them, or at least myself and my entire family does. Disc 3 on the beach is everything.

Rose Dewitt Bukater & Jack Dawson

I remember the first time I saw Titanic. I was 10 years old, and I wept in the theatre. I also remember my mom explaining to me beforehand that it was very unlikely both Jack & Rose would survive. Still, my 10 year old self was not ready. Looking back now, obviously Jack was going to die. He was the catalyst for turning Rose into a strong independent woman. It just took an epic love story across social classes on a doomed ocean liner for this change to occur. There will be a post at some point about this, but for now, I’ll reminisce and recall all the tears I have shed for Jack & Rose, a tragic love story where nothing and no one was on their side. #OscarforLeo

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Anne Boleyn & Henry VIII

This is a rare historical example, but it became fiction through The Tudors. Henry VIII wasn’t supposed to fall for Anne Boleyn. He was married and divorce was forbidden by the church. But that didn’t stop these two. There was desire and secret excursions. There was passion and obsession. Anne and Henry were hot together and wanted to be with each other at every possible moment. Unfortunately, this was probably the happiest time for this doomed couple. As soon as they were free to be together it all went rather downhill. Heads will roll.

Henry/Anne♥ - henry-viii-and-anne-boleyn Fan Art

Padme Amidala & Anakin Skywalker

Now Anakin & Padme get a lot of hate (largely from Kris & KG) in the Star Wars universe but this relationship is a perfect example of forbidden love. A Jedi is supposed to live without attachment but this young Skywalker did more than just break his oath. He fell in love… obsessive love. Anakin & Padme work. They are young and crazy for each other, and have an intense connection that they believe will fix everything else. There’s nothing Anakin wouldn’t do for Padme, and I think Padme would have done anything for Anakin (he was just already gone by the time she tried). Unfortunately, this all took a dramatic turn towards the Dark Side and ultimately nothing could save either of them (until Luke appears 20 years later).

Aria Montgomery & Ezra Fitz

From that bathroom makeout in the pilot of Pretty Little Liars I was 100% on board with Ezria. Aria & Ezra are perfect for each other. Possibly even the greatest love story ever told (at least KG & I say so to bug Kris). They just fit together. They have similar interests and are always connected & aware of the other person. They’re perfect together. Except for one small thing: she is 16 and he is her teacher. This has resulted in a number of trials and tribulations for a pair that has miraculously survived. While their ending isn’t a happy one right now, I am positive these two are end game. Here’s hoping this is a forbidden love story where no one dies (fingers crossed)!

Clary Fray & Jace Wayland

From the beginning of City of Bones you know that Jace & Clary are the romantic heroes of the story. There’s an instant chemistry between the two of them. Jace opens her eyes to the Shadow World and Clary just can’t get enough of both Jace and this new world. Jace is the sexy bad boy with a tortured past and Clary is just an average girl – who happens to be his sister. We see these two struggle to hide their feelings but also give into moments of passion. It’s all so angsty. But, lucky for Clace, it just all happens to work out in the end. Their story is no longer one of forbidden love.

What does this say about me?!? Looking at all this I’m not entirely sure what my preferences mean for my love life. Are my relationships destined for tragedy and heartbreak? Do I secretly want a forbidden love?

While these fictional relationships consume me I am well aware that they are just that – fictional. These aren’t real life. A student shouldn’t date her teacher and you shouldn’t be fooling around with your sibling. But this is fiction, which is meant to be dramatic and these relationships certainly are. I love them and I am rooting for a happy ending amongst all the heartbreak.

Back to my love life. I think I’ll settle for something a little less dramatic. Forbidden love doesn’t sound like the best idea. Perhaps I’ll just keep looking for my Prince Charming instead.

Till next time, thanks for reading.
– Justine Alyssa

Photo sources: Romeo & Juliet, Twilight, The Thorn Birds, Titanic, The Tudors, Star Wars, Pretty Little Liars, The Mortal Instruments

January 16, 2016 0 comment

Dating Teen TV Shows TV YA Fiction

Nice Guys Finish Last…or What’s so Wrong with Mike Newton?

written by Kris Padget

This Tuesday is an ultra exciting day on television. We will be graced with the mid-season premiere of Pretty Little Liars – with the intriguing #5YearsForward jump – and the series premiere of Shadowhunters, the new series based on Cassandra Clare’s book series The Mortal Instruments. Obviously we are obsessed with both of these fandoms and as the good fangirls we are, we’re dedicating an entire week to discussing these thrilling television debuts. Welcome to PLL/Shadowhunters Week on My Fangirl Life!

Guys, why do nice guys always finish last? I know that people try to convince you otherwise, and perhaps in the long run karma balances out, but in teen years nice guys seem to be the forgotten ones. What brought this preponderance to mind, you ask? Why Love Triangles & Shadowhunters, of course.

Shadowhunters starts this week. This new CW show is based on the YA Mortal Instruments series by Cassandra Clare. It’s about a teenage girl who finds out there’s more to the world than she previously realized. Demons, werewolves, and vampires are real, along with a coven of warriors sworn to protect the mortal world from them. That’s all well & good, but why am I lamenting over the downfall of “the boy next door”? If you’ve read the books (or saw the 2013 The Mortal Instruments: City of Bones movie) you know that Clary, the protagonist I spoke of earlier, is initially caught in a love triangle with two guys: Jace & Simon. It is a love triangle of epically typical proportions for teen content. And it brings to mind something I have puzzled after for years:

What’s so wrong with Mike Newton?

We’re all about the hard questions here at My Fangirl Life… but seriously, to bring it back to Twilight, why was Mike Newton such a ridiculously bad choice to Bella? Why are the Mike Newtons of teen fiction always so overlooked? They are everywhere and they are constantly getting screwed… or constantly not getting screwed, depending on how you look at it…

Let’s start with Mike Newton himself. In case it’s been awhile since you read/watched Twilight (believe me, I understand why) I’ll refresh your memory on the Mike Newton situation: Bella moves to a small town and (despite the fact that she seems to be the most boring person alive) Mike Newton notices her. Mike Newton! The local dreamboat! This should be super exciting. She should be giggling with her friends, scheming ways to bump into him in the hallways, but Bella sticks true to the emotions Kristen Stewart can portray and completely ignores him… even when she realizes he likes her! You do all realize that if this were any other teen movie/book/tv show Mike Newton would be the guy every girl wants & every guy wants to be, right? He’s seen in a letter jacket, which means he’s probably the star player of Forks’ number one sports team, vying for an athletic scholarship to a fancy college. But we never find out because Mike Newton is not worthy of backstory, apparently.

Mike Newton: Star Athlete

Of course, this franchise has vampires so the quarterback becomes totally irrelevant. By rule of the genre, Bella goes for the mysterious other-worldly creature. Then enters into a love triangle with another supernatural being, who could possibly kill her. Now I understand the appeal of fantasy (I’m a huge nerd who lives for anything dragons/elves/zombies) but I don’t get why you would want to date someone who is always seconds away from ending your life. It seems needlessly stressful. Bella is stuck trying to figure out how to make a relationship work with a guy who wants to suck her blood and will never age… Meanwhile, Mike Newton is probably going off to school, getting a solid job and establishing a great life for himself & his future wife. Why is that not something she should want? Where does it say that a safe and happy life is a bad one? What’s so wrong with Mike Newton?

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Is it really that hard to pick a side?

But Mike Newton is not the only case of this “nice guys finish last” mentality. As I mentioned earlier, this was brought back to mind by the Jace-Clary-Simon love triangle of the Mortal Instruments series (and the upcoming Shadowhunters show). Clary spends her whole life pre-City of Bones with Simon by her side. He is absolutely devoted to her, yet she never even considers him in an anywhere-near romantic way. Then along comes Jace with his superhuman shadowhunter abilities and she’s falling all over herself to get with him. I’ll admit I’m a sucker for Jace’s golden locks & quick wit but that doesn’t mean we should completely rule Simon out! Jace is leading her into a life of danger, obstacles & pain. Simon, on the other hand, would lead her into a life of coffee shops, video games and nerd references. With Jace she will have to train to fight and fight to live. With Simon they would probably go off to college – her taking fine arts & pursuing drawing, him taking computer sciences or something equally as nerdy & lucrative. If she and Jace manage to survive long enough to get married & have kids, she will be dooming them to the same risky existence. The biggest threat her & Simon’s kids would face would be inheriting either of their apparent clumsiness. I know what the obvious choice is for me… Plus who doesn’t find an awkward comic book reading geek incredibly sexy? … Oh, that’s just me? Ok…moving on…

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Always Picking the Bad Boys

Need another example? How about the recently concluded film series (based on the best-selling book series) The Hunger Games? This one is a little more complicated but still demonstrates my point. We have nice, sweet, safe Peeta and burly, angry hunter Gale. Katniss fails to even note Peeta’s existence for the majority of her life. Meanwhile she is running about the woods in a thoroughly rebellious manner with Gale. You’d think the tide would turn once she and Peeta have entered & exited the Hunger Games arena… she’s got to have noticed him now! But alas, Peeta is still the sensible guy who just wants to wave at the cameras and work at his family’s bakery. We can’t have our heroine going for a guy like that! He wants to make a living and have a family in the nice homes they now live in? The horror! Instead she needs to continue to long for the guy who wants to run off and live in the woods – or start an entire rebellion – depending on the day. I know what you’re thinking: But she ends up with Peeta in the end! Yes, she does, but only after he’s been transformed into a completely different person. She doesn’t want Peeta because he’s a nice normal guy. She wants him because he’s messed up… that seems to go right along with what I’m saying.

So what have we learned here? For starters, I’ve learned that nice guys finish last… at least in teen tv shows & fiction. What kind of message is that sending to teen girls? We obsess over the fact that there are so many strong female characters for girls to hold as role models these days, but are we really analyzing the examples they are setting? Sure they should be as resourceful & resilient as Katniss and as clever & creative as Clary and as – yeah I got nothing – as Bella… but when it comes to love I’m not sure they should be following their literary heroines’ leads. Really look at the choices of men these characters have and try to tell me we are not telling girls to pick the wild, tattooed biker over the cute guy next door. Plus this is not doing anything in terms of realistic expectations; fantasy is fun, but the chances of you meeting a vampire in real life are low… and one that won’t want to kill you, even lower.

mike-newton-twilight-breaking-dawn-wedding The next time you are reading a book, or thinking about the romantic choices in your life, remember the my advice. Nice guys finish last… but do they have to? Be sure to stop & ask yourself: What’s so wrong with Mike Newton?

Love & Luck,
Kris

Image Sources: Mike 1 / Mike 2 / Mike 3 / Mike Gif / Shadowhunters / Feature Image

January 10, 2016 0 comment

Dating Once Upon A Time Reviews TV

Undateable: Our Once Upon a Time Fictional Boyfriends

written by Kris Padget

Once Upon a Time is back tonight!!!! Huzzah! If you are anything like me you have been halfheartedly schlepping through life during its hiatus, wondering why you are even bothering to be awake. But it is time to rise from your brain-dead slumber & re-engage. Emma is the Dark One. Henry is the Author. And Hook is as handsome as ever! Bring on the OUAT drama. To celebrate I thought I’d take a look at the OUAT hunks and decide which of them are Undateable. Each man will receive a letter grade as a boyfriend and a Feels Rating out of 10 for how your relationship with him would go.

I’ve made the executive decision to only include those who are still alive (RIP Graham ?), aren’t children (Henry is growing up but he’s not that grown up yet) and don’t threaten to turn back into a child at any minute (I’ve been burned by you before August, turning into a child when all the other hunks were dying on me). Those restrictions limit the number of hunky men a surprising amount…

Prince Charming / David Nolan
Charming is one of those “too good to be true” types. He is nice and safe and secure. He will buy you flowers, make you dinner, kiss you every morning before work & every night before bed, and generally treat you right. There is no argument against him… except that when you compare him to literally any other OUAT man he is sleep-inducingly boring. A boring goody-two-shoes who has only has adventures because they were thrust upon him. If stable is your thing, this is your man. If you want some drama & excitement, then keep reading or be sucked into an unfulfilled love where you grow to resent your partner for holding you down in one spot forever. After all, he “will always find you”.
Boyfriend Rating: A (1 point deducted for being boring)
Relationship Rating: 6 out of 10 Feels ?￰ﾟﾘﾍ☺️?￰ﾟﾘﾴ☺️⚪️⚪️⚪️⚪️

Knave of Hearts / Will Scarlett
If you watched Once Upon a Time in Wonderland you were treated to a taste of how devoted Will Scarlett can be. He wanted no one but his true love. He’d do anything for her, including forgiving a lot of bullshit. Inevitably you’d start acting out, pushing him to see his limits; the great thing about Will is that he would push right back. There’d be an ebb-and-flow to your relationship that with time would settle into a natural give & take. Basically what I’m saying is that I think Mr. Scarlett would make a dashing boyfriend, willing to take you on adventures and work through your issues… but then again, he’s mysteriously appeared in Storybrooke sans-Anastasia so perhaps we shouldn’t trust in his desire for a ‘happily ever after’ too much.
Boyfriend Rating: B+
Relationship Rating: 8 out of 10 Feels ?￰ﾟﾘﾍ?￢ﾘﾺ️?￰ﾟﾘﾘ?￰ﾟﾘﾄ⚪️⚪️

Robin Hood
If the recent plotlines of Once Upon a Time are any indication, a relationship with Robin will not be easy. But it’s not his fault. Frankly Robin is devoted and sweet. He’s honourable and adamantly follows his sense of duty. That’s the problem though. In a world where villains are constantly throwing evils schemes your way you can’t always play by the rules. However, you will stick with Robin through thick & thin because he is the kind of man you could search your whole life for!
Boyfriend Rating: A-
Relationship Rating: 8 out of 10 Feels ?￢ﾘﾺ️?￰ﾟﾘﾦ?￰ﾟﾘﾂ☺️?￢ﾚﾪ️⚪️

Rumplestiltskin / Mr Gold
This is a case where the split personality matters. Mr. Gold was quite devoted to Belle, while Rumple was horrible to everyone, including his own family. If you are venturing into this relationship, be absolutely sure you have the human – not the crocodile. That being said, even the lesser of two evils is still evil. You will try to get close to him but he will continue to choose his nefarious plots over you time-and-time-again. We watched it unfold on our screens with Belle. Don’t think it would be any different with you. Perhaps if you were interested in giving the dark side a try though it might be another story… we haven’t seen how Rumple would react to a partner in crime.
Boyfriend Rating: D
Relationship Rating: 4 out of 10 Feels (5 if you’re evil) ?￰ﾟﾘﾟ?￰ﾟﾘﾲ⚪️⚪️⚪️⚪️⚪️?

Hook / Killian Jones
Your relationship with Hook might have a bit of a slower start than with some of the other men of Storybrooke. His sordid past is definitely a concern. A dastardly pirate? That doesn’t sound like the ideal companion… but he’s just so charming & roguishly handsome! Plus he seems to genuinely want to change for you. No, not change. He wants to re-find himself. Re-find Killian, the nice guy who wants to treat a lady right. As soon as you give in to your temptations the passion will build into an undeniable love… or at least that’s how it goes in my imagination…
Boyfriend Rating: B+
Relationship Rating: 9 out of 10 Feels ?￰ﾟﾘﾎ?￰ﾟﾘﾉ?￢ﾘﾺ️?￰ﾟﾘﾀ?￢ﾚﾪ️

Who is your OUAT boyfriend? (Can you guess mine?) Maybe I didn’t even include him here… there are just too many hunks parading around Storybrooke/the Enchanted Forest/Camelot this season (?)!

Love & Luck,
Kris

Image Sources: Charming – Will – Robin – Rumple – Hook

September 27, 2015 0 comment

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Fangirl Playlists: Your Best Breakup Soundtrack

written by Kristin Glass

Kris introduced our “Fangirl Playlists” feature last month with Longing for Adventure, and today I’m going to add to it by bringing you Your Best Breakup Soundtrack.

Breakups are pretty much the worst, but you can work your way through them with good friends, ice cream, and, of course, the perfect playlist. All you need to do is get through the 5 Stages of Grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. Not an easy task, but I guess that’s why breakups are so hard. And once all that is over, you’ll be able to move on and take on your future. Read on for a playlist to mirror your progress:

DENIAL
This is the first reaction after the breakup… and it can typically be accompanied by shock and confusion. At this point, your heart doesn’t really believe that it is over. You might even think about what that relationship could still be.

1.What Do You Mean? – Justin Bieber

2. My Happy Ending – Avril Lavigne

ANGER
You might be angry at your ex, yourself, your friends, the world… pretty much anything. But at this point in the grieving process you are just angry. You might even write a song about it

3. Revenge Is Sweeter (Than You Ever Were) – The Veronicas

4. Don’t – Ed Sheeran

5. Son of A – Mackenzie Porter

BARGAINING
This is the part where you still try to find ways to make the relationship work. You might talk to your ex, or maybe just to yourself or your friends. You try to negotiate.

6. Half A Heart – One Direction

7. Far Away – Nickelback

8. Can’t Have You – Jonas Brothers

DEPRESSION
This is the saddest part of the cycle. The hopelessness, the tiredness, and the lack of belief in any kind of future. Keep pushing through, though!

7. Last Kiss – Taylor Swift

8. Incomplete – Backstreet Boys

9. Amnesia – 5 Seconds of Summer

ACCEPTANCE
At this point can finally look back and accept that your relationship is over. Acceptance might creep in slowly, but you will start to plan for your future and see possibilities in it. There might still be sadness – there might always be some sadness – but you can start to move forward.

10. I Remember Everything – Daisy Mallory

11. Broken Ones – Jacquie Lee

12. Miss Movin’ On – Fifth Harmony

AWESOME!
And this is when you have made it through the 5 stages and finally do start to fully move on… perhaps not quite with a new relationship, but you don’t need one. You’re good to just dance the night away with your squad.

12. Girl on Fire – Alicia Keys

13. New Romantics – Taylor Swift

14. Me & My Girls – Fifth Harmony

What do you think? What else would you include on this list? Share in the comments!

Cheers,

September 21, 2015 0 comment

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Undateable: The Folly of Fandom Men

written by Kris Padget

I recently came across a compelling post by a fellow Female Geek Blogger named Meaghan Sara. The post was titled Adventures in Mediocrity: If I Dated Fozzie Bear and chronicled the fate of a relationship with the beloved Muppet. Aside from being hilarious & adorable, the post really got me thinking about the type of relationships we, as regular down-to-earth fangirls, would have with our fictional boyfriends. Sure Fozzie Bear isn’t a typical nerd-crush, but in that post he represented a whole slew of fandom heartthrobs. Heartthrobs that would inevitably break your heart.

Spoiler Alert (go read Meaghan’s post now before continuing): Things would not work out well with Fozzie Bear. His stand-up career would always come before you and you would refuse to spend evening after evening in dive bars watching him perform. And would a life with any of our other favourite hunks end differently? I doubt it. Call me a cynic all you want, but even a romantic has to admit that many of the tv/movie/literary men we so desire would actually foster very unhealthy relationships. Let’s talk through a few examples:

Dean Winchester

Ugh. Could he be any more attractive? And he’s witty & charming, adventurous & resourceful, not to mention what he is bound to be like in the sack (yup, I went there). Throw in a vintage car worth lusting over and you’ve found yourself the perfect man. Right? Wrong. Can you say “Daddy Issues”? Then there’s the unhealthy relationship with his brother; talk about guilt trips! He has an emotionally scarred angel, who he is shipped with for a reason (when bromance turns romance ?). Plus he’ll never love you as much as he loves pie. And that’s all without even touching on demonic possession, his unhealthy relationship with the Lord of Hell, and the constant danger you would be in as a source for vengeance.
Boyfriend Rating: C
Relationship Rating: 6 out of 10 Feels ?￰ﾟﾘﾀ?￰ﾟﾘﾭ?￰ﾟﾘﾲ⚪️⚪️⚪️⚪️

The Doctor

Yes, the start of your relationship is very exciting. He takes you through time. He takes you through space. He shows you things you couldn’t even have imagined. But he’s constantly moving. Always bored. Never satisfied… even with you. You realize he will always be like this… forever. And how odd will the relationship be when you are old & grey and he is still looking fresh faced & young… or not. Who knows? Because his face will likely change multiple times in your relationship. Try explaining that to your family.
Boyfriend Rating: C-
Relationship Rating: 6 out of 10 Feels ?￰ﾟﾘﾃ?￰ﾟﾘﾰ?￰ﾟﾘﾭ⚪️⚪️⚪️⚪️

Jon Snow

Vow of celibacy. Enough said.
Boyfriend Rating: B+
Relationship Rating: 3 out of 10 Feels ?￰ﾟﾘﾶ?￢ﾚﾪ️⚪️⚪️⚪️⚪️⚪️⚪️

Who is your fictional crush? How’d he be as a boyfriend? Perhaps I can help you out with my own analysis! Let me know in the comments.

Love & Luck,
Kris

Image Sources: (1) (2) (3) (4)

July 18, 2015 0 comment

Comic Conventions Dating

Adventures in Geek Speed Dating

written by The Girl with the Golden Lightsaber

Below is an actual account of actual events submitted by a guest contributor. Names have been changed to protect all parties involved…let’s call the author the Girl with the Golden Lightsaber. Here is her story:

Hello fellow fangirls and fanboys. Shall I come up with a plural for that? Fanpeople? That doesn’t sound quite as fun.Let’s stick with fangirls & pay homage to this website!
Anyways, I digress…
I had the totally awesome and surprising experience of geek speed-dating at this year’s Edmonton Expo. As someone who has never speed-dated in her life, GEEK speed dating was quite the experience.

Sitting in a room full of single, potential love interests is nerve-wracking to say the least. But there is something incredibly exciting about being at an Expo and doing it in costume. You feel powerful, and not quite yourself. More outgoing. Stronger perhaps. The normal fears of dating are quickly abolished by the speed (see what I did there?) at which you meet each new person. There is no time to be embarrassed as the next person is in front of you within 3 minutes.

When meeting new people a few potential concerns are:
What will we talk about?
What if we have nothing in common?
What if the date is terrible and I need to bail?
Well put those fears aside because when you’re Geek speed dating everyone is bound to have at least one common interest and are there for the same reason as you. As Wil Wheton once mentioned, geeks are insanely passionate about their interests,and that’s what makes hanging out with us so much fun. Put that in a speed dating scenario and you now have only 3 minute sot charm your potential prince dressed a Spider-man.

It was loud and slightly claustrophobic, with cheers and high-fives happening all around me. I loved it. Everyone was so excited to be there, and still running on a high from the day of Con going. Heck! I’m writing this a week after the Con and I’ms till buzzing. Expos…Cons…whatever you want to call them, are extremely exciting and people that go to them love the experience with every fiber of their being. SO with that in mind, cue a bunch of extremely excitable, sugar-high, sleep deprived, exhausted geeks. That’s a recipe for a room full of hyper people, where fun knows no bounds.

After the first 4 or 5 people I lost track of who was who. Who was Team Marvel. Who was Team DC. Which person loved Firefly. And which hated it (GASP!). That’s where the handy-dandy matching sheet came in, where you could circle ‘Maybe’ or ‘Yes’ next to a match.

No spark? No problem! You get to spend the next 3 minutes chatting to a total stranger without fear of being judged. What if the already short 3 minutes are horridly, cringe-worthy, awful? Ask them about their costume and get them to explain it in full detail and how they made it. Whamo! Awkward 3 minutes gone.

At the end of it all I didn’t even get to meet all of the people in the room, however I’m sure I could have spent the next 10 hours talking to them if I wanted to, and we probably would have gotten along splendidly (that’s really a great word; we should try to bring it back). Perhaps we could have gone drinking together in full costume. (I recommend everyone try this at least once. It’s fun. The looks you get are hysterical.)

If you’re a self-proclaimed geek, single and like meeting new people, I highly recommend geek speed dating! And hey, you might get lucky and get a match. And if not, you’ll get a couple hours geeking out with your fellow Con-goers.

Speed Date Away!
XO Girl with the Golden Lightsaber Out.

October 7, 2014 0 comment