Welcome to my weekly blog series: Tuesday Walk of Shame. Here I hang my head low as I admit to having watched the previous night’s episode of The Bachelor / Bachelorette / Bachelor In Paradise (or whatever the newest spin-off happens to be) and provide my own personal commentary. I’ll tell you what I loved. I’ll tell you what I hated. And most importantly, I’ll tell you what I would have done differently.
Vote Kris for The Bachelorette… because socially anxious, kinda bitchy, hopelessly unromantic nerds deserve love too.
Happy International Women’s Day! I can think of plenty of ways to celebrate that would be better than discussing The Bachelor’s Women Tell All episode… but considering it’s Tuesday Walk of Shame day, Women Tell All seems like a fitting topic. In honour of this day of feminine strength I am going to discuss everything the ladies did right in last night’s typical bitch-fest:
During the first few weeks of Bachelor Ben’s courtship process, Lace acted like a crazy person. Even she’s admitted it. But Lace did a wonderful job of showing a different side of herself last night during the Women Tell All special. She stuck with her “you can’t love someone else until you love yourself” line, but filled it out with more background & substance. She showed Chris Harrison and all of us viewers at home how much a person can grow from this process, even if they don’t find love. She convinced us that she is not crazy – she was just overwhelmed… and I would be too.
Jubilee may not have been sure why she was apologizing, but I appreciate her trying. She really did want to mend fences and to try to see other perspectives. The show left me feeling like Jubilee spent so much time feeling misunderstood that she stopped understanding others. Last night she tried to break that cycle. Good for her.
Amanda has been consistently sweet-as-honey throughout this entire season, but during the Women Tell All episode I also found her uncharacteristically confident & concise. She felt as if she was wronged by Olivia, but rather than bitch & moan or go on the attack, she expressed her concerns in a clear and level-headed fashion. She told Olivia how she felt (that she’d apologized for only part of what she had done wrong) in an emotional, yet logical way. And could she have given a better speech to Ben? No anger, no resentment. Just love… the kind you’d expect from a mature, loving mother.
Love her or hate her, Olivia had some heart-strings moments last night. On occasion she tried to drive the message home too hard and it feel very flat, such as the blurt out of “I was bullied a lot as a child”. But when she opened up about having to give up her social media accounts, or when she was faced with the legitimate claims of emotional harm from her fellow Bachelorettes, we all saw the real women beneath the hard, shiny exterior. I applaud Olivia for being strong & confident, but I also applaud her for her moments of vulnerability and encourage her to let the world see that version of Olivia more.
Emily & Haylie
I have never claimed to think the twins are the most intelligent members of Bachelor Ben’s ladies, but last night they may have proved me wrong. While they are still young and a bit more emotional in their responses than some of the more mature contestants, each of the twins brought up legitimate concerns and made value-added commentary during the course of the Women Tell All episode. And I loved when Emily (???) brought up that some of the other women, not just Olivia, read! lol
Here’s where we sit going into the finale with Bachelor Ben:
Get ready for the “most dramatic finale ever” next week … but actually, for real, the MOST DRAMATIC!
Until next episode…
Love & Luck,